In the early part of her marriage, she felt horrified about oral sex and struggled to have orgasms. Anne also never fully escaped the feeling that sex was taboo: “We weren’t allowed to even think about it,” she said about her parents’ approach to sex.
She loved David and liked sex with him, but it often fell lower on the list of what she needed: a good night’s sleep, an arm around her shoulder, no expectations. Over the next five years, they had two more children, and Anne sometimes felt exhausted, managing homework, schedules, driving, emergencies, meltdowns. A few years after their wedding, they had their first child, and David began traveling half the month for his job. David was more lustful and eager Anne was more hesitant, at times leaning toward accommodation rather than enthusiasm. “What’s a clitoris? I didn’t know about that.”įrom the outset of their marriage, the two explored sex together. “Thursday and Friday, sex is a sin, then you get married on Saturday,” David said. She was 21, he was 22 and they were raised in conservative Catholic homes.
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